Pre-teen Years (8 To 13 Years)

Noticing the signs of depression or anxiety in your preteen is a challenging task. It's normal for a child to feel nervous, fearful and worried when faced with new situations and experiences.

However, if the anxiety prompts them to run and hide instead of facing the situation, then it is a sign of serious anxiety which can be controlled with the right approach.

Children always tend to reach out to their parents first for any help to deal with problems.

According to a systematic review conducted in the UK, mindfulness among school students reduced stress, anxiety and brought calmness in them.

Supporting them with your small efforts can make them feel better such as:

  • i. Paying attention to their feelings
  • ii. Staying calm when they hit the panic button
  • iii. Appreciating their small achievements
  • iv. Keeping realistic expectations
  • v. Exploring their hidden feelings can create an emotional and mental balance.
  • vi. A simple and effective way to enable your kid to cope with these issues is by restoring their self-confidence.

Every parent has a strong desire that their child should excel in studies as it is certainly this knowledge that sets the foundation for their further education and career.

But all the time, money and effort invested by you in your young adult's education is in vain if they have a bad memory and poor concentration.

It is normal to lose your cool at such times but it will do more harm and may develop feelings of angst in them.

Some of the ways in which you can be their memory coach are by:

  • i. Giving them time to de-stress before studies
  • ii. Encouraging them to take up a hobby and
  • iii. Developing their interest in cognitive games such as ‘Rubik’s cube’.

As per systematic reviews and individual studies conducted in the UK, inculcating a habit of mindfulness in kids can develop their cognitive and performance skills. It can also improve their memory, reasoning and problem solving skills.

Also, at times, we unknowingly create a negative aura in and around our house and this can be a deterrent to your kid’s overall development.

You can deflect this negativity and create a positive ambiance in your house by applying the knowledge of Saral Education and notice the positive difference in their studies.

Minor fluctuations in grades are part and parcel of a student’s life. However, if your pre-teen is shunning her/his studies regularly, it should raise an alarm.

An array of reasons can demotivate your preteen such as:

  • i. Learning disabilities
  • ii. Uncomfortable learning setting
  • iii. Disliking few subjects in the curriculum
  • iv. Failure to reach unrealistic goals
  • v. Lack of appreciation
  • vi. Inefficient teaching

A data from the National Sample Survey Office (NSSO) depicts that one out of every three school kid in the age group of 10-14 years skipped school as they considered education unnecessary. Other reasons being, schools were located too far from home, to earn income for supporting family and to do domestic chores.

The energy flow in our house has a direct impact on the occupants. Negative energy in their room can make them lazy and demotivated to study.

Our unique concept of Saral Education can:

  • i. Tap the positive energy in your child’s study room and motivate them to study.
  • ii. Encourage them to take up a relevant activity that will support in putting their interest back on track.

Being impulsive, moody, angry or disrespectful is a common behavior exhibited by a pre-teen.

As a parent, you may come across situations where your pre-adolescent may pick an argument with you, shun responsibilities or simply withdraw from any interaction.

Owing to hectic work schedules, you may not have enough time or patience to guide your pre-teen. Due to this, they may develop behavioural problems.

You can take care of these situations by:

  • i. Talking it out with them, occasionally acknowledging their good behaviour
  • ii. Setting certain ground rules that demand respectful behaviour.
  • iii. Also, there are natural ways of creating positive energy in the house using Saral Education that can effectively manage your pre-teen’s behaviour.
  • iv. Also as a parent, you have to play the role of a mentor when the situation demands and demonstrate how to be more respectful and reasonable.

Every parent has an innate desire that their children should grow up to be financially independent.

Pre-teenage is essentially an age when kids tend to overspend, so inculcating a saving habit at this stage is vital.

Overspending on junk food and clothes has become quite common among this age group. Following are some guidelines that will help:

  • i. Before giving them pocket money, teaching them the value of money and how to use it wisely is necessary.
  • ii. It is crucial to make them understand the importance of being grateful and appreciative of all the things they already have.
  • iii. Even the place where you live influences the flow of wealth. If there is any disharmony about wealth among family members of the house, it can impact the spending habits of the occupants.
  • iv. With the adoption of Saral Education, you can create a balance in the surrounding energies of the house and contribute positively towards your pre-teen’s “money-skill” development.

Do you give in to your preteen’s demand to play games on your mobile phone?

Is excessive addiction to animated television series preventing them from studying?

In the age of gizmos and texting, it is common for children to become susceptible to the harmful effects of media overuse. According to a study, 70% of Indian kids in the age group of 7-10 years are mobile phone users.

Continuous tapping on smartphones and tablets can:

1. Affect their mental well-being, increase irritability and reduce their social interaction. It can also create havoc in their sleep cycles and impact their brain development.

To reduce the potential health risks of tech addiction in kids, you may consider the following options:

  • i. Setting a limit on their usage or completely avoid handing it to them until they enter their teenage years.
  • ii. Enrolling your child in a hobby class to take some ‘tech time-out’
  • iii. Re-energize their mind and help them put on their thinking caps with family board games.

The human body has the capability to regulate our emotional and physical well-being. If we do not utilize this function, it can create disharmony in functioning of our mind & body.

With Saral Education, we support the development of this capability in every child’s body and empower children to think and act rationally.

When children are too young, they are incapable of understanding others’ emotions.

However, if this behaviour persists as they grow older; it can be a red flag that something is amiss with your preteen’s life skill.

At this age, closely observe if your kid:

  • i. Indulges in excessive bullying
  • ii. Doesn’t get disturbed by someone’s pain or suffering
  • iii. Is overly insensitive or unreasonably ignores others when they talk

If any of the above sounds familiar to you, these are early signs of an easy to solve problem.

As a parent, you can play a significant role in developing empathy in your child by:

  • a.Responding to their needs in a caring way rather than showing anger
  • b.Being compassionate with your child will also put them in a better position to think rationally about their needs.

A review on mindfulness exercises of students conducted in the UK has shown a 25% improvement in their emotional skills, 11% improvement in their achievement tests and 10% decrease in classroom mischief. These results are very encouraging and other countries, including India, are adopting similar strategies at a national level.

Identifying the impact of your home’s environment on your child’s learning & development is important. With the application of Saral Education, you can attract positive energy in your abode and improve your child’s overall personality.