Teenage Years (13 To 18 Years)

A growing concern of every parent today is comprehending the thoughts of their teenager. For a parent, we understand what a challenging task it must be to recognize what their youngster may be going through.

A host of reasons can make a teen feel pressurized, such as:

  • i. Competing for admission into top-rated schools
  • ii. Entering into adulthood
  • iii. Bullying by peers or
  • iv. Parental pressure for better grades

According to a World Health Organization (W.H.O.) report on India, following are linked in varying degrees to depression among youngsters:

  • i. Traumatic experiences in early childhood
  • ii. Frequent migration
  • iii. Negative life events
  • iv. Educational setbacks
  • v. Early relationship problems
  • vi. Family history of mental illness
  • vii. Stress at school and in the family

Systematic reviews and individual studies conducted around the developed world are showing that mindful adolescents displayed more positive emotions, made more friends and experienced less anxiety or negativity.

As a parent, it is a tough task to differentiate your child’s mood swings between a puberty issue and a serious mental health complication such as depression.

As teenagers enter into this phase, they experience strong emotions and physical changes. By incorporating Saral Education in your house, you can create a balance that can help your teen in managing emotions efficiently.

If your teenager has poor focus in studies and being forgetful then it may be a cause for concern.

One or more of the following factors can lead to low attention span or poor memory among teens:

  • i. Inadequate sleep
  • ii. Family issues
  • iii. Bad diet
  • iv. Increasing use of television and mobiles

Easy availability of answers via Google search may also prompt your teen to think less than her/his capability.

Mindfulness is a beneficial intervention that can enhance teen’s mental health by improving their ability to learn.

With the help of Saral Education, your teen can also concentrate better by connecting to the Universal energy and score better marks. If your teen is intrinsically demotivated, then all your efforts may not yield optimal results.

Encouraging your teen to indulge in thought-provoking games such as crosswords and fixing a proper routine for their day can also help in maximum utilization of their “study phase”.

Inspiring your teen to take up a hobby they are passionate about can further boost their focus and concentration.

As children enter their teenage years, they experience various physical and emotional changes that often disorientate them.

An unintentional wrong choice in the field of study, over expectations from parents and bad peer influence, can tend to make them feel demotivated and disinterested in studies.

Adolescents learn from observing their parents, so as a parent you can positively impact your teen by portraying a positive attitude towards work, friends, family and the like.

In India, the drop-out rates are higher in secondary school students. As per Annual States of Education Report (ASER) 2016 survey conducted in 589 districts, around 15.3% of children in the age group of 15-16 years did not attend school. The girls above 15 years of age were more likely to drop-out due to marriage and their involvement in domestic chores.

Some words of wisdom to help in teen parenting:

  • i. Teach your teen how to consider failures as a learning experience and move on rather than unnecessary dwelling on the mistakes.
  • ii. Encourage them to participate in extracurricular activities that make the learning experience enjoyable.
  • iii. Help them set clear short-term goals in studies. Achieving them will further develop their interest in the long run.
  • iv. Introducing your teen to the concept of Saral Education can give them a clearer understanding of their emotions and build their self-esteem.
  • v. If they are unnecessarily worrying about challenges then it may hinder their ability to have a positive outlook towards studies and life in general.
  • vi. Once youngsters are aware of their innate capability, they can easily deal with the challenges in life head-on.

Has your disciplined and soft-spoken child turned into a troublesome, disrespectful and aggressive teenager?

Well, this is a common issue faced by parents once their kids hit teenage years.

The situation is the same overseas with a study in US revealed that people in the age group of 18 to 34 years were indifferent and impolite towards the vulnerable.

Factors that can negatively impact your teenager’s behaviour are:

  • i. Peer influence
  • ii. Alcohol, nicotine or drug abuse
  • iii. Excessively strict parenting style.
  • iv. Family problems
  • v. Learning disabilities or attention deficit

Rather than being frustrated, you can calmly address this problem by openly interacting with your teen and introducing them to the foundation knowledge of Saral Education.

It will help them:

  • A. Come out of unnecessary guilt
  • B. Nudge them to build a positive self-image
  • C. Encourage them to participate in extra-curricular activities
  • D. Utilize opportunities to socialize.

Nobody is born with poor etiquettes or a bad attitude, providing a positive upbringing and environment when kids grow up can make all the difference in their attitude.

The curiosity to know everything, pressure of studies, emotional struggles and physical changes can make a teenager search for an easy escape.

At this vulnerable age, they may be influenced by friends or a desire to try new things may prompt them to experiment with alcohol, drugs, cigarettes or tobacco for the first time. According to “The Global Youth Tobacco Survey” conducted in 2006, 3.8% of students smoke. Tobacco is known to be the primary cause of other forms of drug abuse.

The excitement and temporary relief that they get can turn this into a regular habit for them.

Following action steps can help:

  • 1. Initiating a conversation with your teenager in a compassionate way
  • 2. Also, there are phases of development in a human body & psyche. If we do not acknowledge this fact, then it can cause problems in the mind and body. This may be the cause for their irrational behaviour and overindulgence on stimulants and depressants.
  • 3. A supporting family helps them in facing their fears and provides them the required anchor. This helps them in connecting with the positive & productive energies in the surroundings.

Is your teenager careless about money?

Do you worry about your youngster’s ability to become financially independent?

According to a 2012 study by Indian Institute of Management, Ahmedabad (IIM-A) and Citi Foundation, more than 50% of youngsters surveyed in India scored “very low” on real-life concepts under financial knowledge.

Teenage years are the most crucial for inculcating saving and financial planning habits in youngsters. Since these behavioural aspects are highly influenced by peer groups, it is important to have an open discussion with them while setting clear expectations.

However, what do you do if despite your best efforts they are unable to keep a check on their expenses?

As Parents, you can:

  • a. Apply the four sciences of Saral Education and positively influence their thought process about financial skills.
  • b. Involve them in your monthly budget planning exercise
  • c. Share personal experiences about unforeseen situations
  • d. Set examples by diligently comparing options before making purchases
  • e. While allocating pocket money, you can help them set a growth plan for themselves to multiply their money.

In the age of emailing, texting and chatting, it's no surprise to see an increasing number of teenagers relying on technology for their daily activities. There has been a rapid rise in the use of smartphones by 16 to 18 year olds from 5% in 2012 to 25% in early 2014.

Socializing today is all about liking and commenting on their friend’s pictures than having a heart-to-heart conversation.

Watching a lot of crime, violence and sadism on television can leave a negative impression on their mind and develop a bad attitude in the way they interact with others.

The overindulgence on technology can even expose your teen to different mental and physical health hazards.

The good news is, this can be easily avoided in a unique and scientific way! The subtle energy around us can influence the way we think, feel and react to a situation.

The alignment of the bathroom in their room, the placement of their bed, the direction of their sleep, etc. can be the harbinger of negative energy.

The simple remedy with the combination of Direction, Structure, Energy and Chakra Science can deflect this negative energy in their room and improve their overall well-being.

The positive energy created with the application of these powerful sciences can boost their thought process and allow them to make rational decisions by improving their life skills.

Is your teenager insensitive towards violence or sufferings of others?

Is she/he too self-centered to think about anybody else?

Don’t be alarmed as the transformation from pre-teen to teenage can put them in a chaotic state of mind where they are still trying to know their life’s purpose.

We can see a combination of old and new challenges for teenagers:

  • 1. Excessive use of gadgets like mobile phone
  • 2. Peer influence
  • 3. Watching violent programs
  • 4. Difficulty in differentiating ‘Real’ from ‘Reel’ life.

A study conducted by “Mood Disorders Centre” at the University of Exeter, UK in 2012 has revealed that we can improve student’s ability to manage their emotions and develop empathy in them using simple ways.

Sometimes, we unintentionally create negative energy in and around our house. This can be another reason for their grumpy attitude. By applying the knowledge of Saral Education, you can drive away negativity in your home and improve your young-adult’s demeanor.

To further instill empathetic behaviour, politely explain them the need to consider other’s perspective as well in any situation with real life personal examples.

Appreciate them whenever they show good conduct as they predominantly look up to you as their role model.